Miss You Already

This movie is about one very strong friendship, that can survive anything...almost.
Jess (Drew Barrymore) and Milly (Toni Collette) began their friendship when Jess moved to England as a child, and Milly felt sorry for the lone American who talked funny. (The problem here is that because of "E.T.," we all know what Drew Barrymore looked like as a child, and that's impossible to duplicate now.) We fast-forward through the girl stage to the present, when both are adults, and both working. Jess is a city planner and lives on a houseboat with Jago (Paddy Considine). They would like to start a family, but so far it isn't happening for them yet.
Milly, in her wild child days, dated Kit (Dominic Cooper), a stoner in a rock band, but when she gets pregnant, she wonders if he'll even care. To their mutual surprise, he cleans up his act, marries her, and becomes quite the doting husband. Now they have two small children and a happy, busy household. The husbands understand that their wives are best friends forever, and mostly try their best to accommodate. But then Milly gets sick. And she wants Jess around her. Which puts a strain on everyone.
It's difficult to recapture the moments in this "BFF" flick, but we really do see the whole range of emotion from both of them. Sometimes they giggle like schoolgirls, other times they quietly sit together, and then there are the moments when they say really mean things to each other, which can't be taken back, even with an apology.
Director Catherine Hardwicke weaves a believable scenario of how a deep-seated relationship like this affects everything around it. Sure, it's a "chick flick," told from the female perspective, but at least the men don't completely disappear, and they aren't always the villains, either. It's just not about them.

Questions For Discussion:

  • Do you have a relationship in your life that transcends all others? What happens if it isn't your spouse?
  • Have you ever been afraid to share your good news with a person you know is struggling? What did you decide?
  • In what events of your life did you insist on having company? Which events did you prefer to experience alone? And were those the right decisions for you?
Dr. Ronald P. Salfen is the Supply Pastor, First Presbyterian Church